You may have may think it was fun for you and a bunch of your buddies to get together and hire strippers for the purpose of humiliation and assualt. You may have thought it was funny to send that little email about rounding up more strippers and “killing those bitches and skinning them” You may even get off for what you did or what you allowed your buddies to do, but as you close ranks and keep keep mum about what happened, I want you to know, I’ll never forget you or your face or the things you said in your email. No means no, and everyone deserves dignity, even strippers. They’re human beings with emotions. Imagine if this were to happen to your girlfriend, mother, sister or friend. Stop hiding behind your team and be a man. You had the audacity to appear at a take back the night rally in which you said you don’t condone rape. Well prove it. Come forward with what you know, and apologize for making light of this very disturbing incident. I believe people can change and I hope one day you can look into your heart and truly know feel ashamed and contrite. Until then I pray for you.
Update: May 5, 2009 I’m updating this post because obviously the accused men were cleared and apparently there are still a lot of people out there on the net who took exception to my original post. My words were harsh but that’s how I felt at the time, and I won’t apologize for them. Rape is never a good thing. I hope the young lady has sought psychological help because she’s in essence ruined some young men’s lives. To the young men in question, I hope they make more responsible choices. As for Ryan, the email thing still bothers me, it shows his lack of respect for women. And I really hope he’s grown up these last three years.
I think one of the best things about writing for my the publishers that I do, is the freedom they give me to create the characters that I want to write. I love writing about women you wouldn’t have traditionally seen on the bookshelves a few years back, i.e. women of color, big beautiful women, women with real life issue, etc. But you know, sometimes I do like writing the traditional heroine as well. I don’t even want to pigeon hole myself as a specific type of author.
I think an author has to write what the story calls for, because when you compromise your vision, you don’t always give your one hundred percent. And at the end of the day, you can’t please everyone so why not please yourself?
I’m working on a story right now of one of my most popular characters. I get emails about him all the time, yet I find myself stalling and putting it off, because frankly, sometimes I find it a little disheartening to be told how I should write this story. I guess eventually, I will have to sit down and force myself to write it, but for now I’d rather put it aside and work on something else.
I was chatting to an aspiring author earlier this week, and she’s working on getting something published and she asked me for advice, I told her, “never stop learning” I think that’s the best advise given to me by a very special person. If you stop learning, readers get bored. Never get so big that you feel you’re above taking suggestion. A New York Times Bestselling Author once told me that she’s still learning. That made a profound impact on me. That was a few years back, but I still take her advice to heart. I’m nowhere near to proficient as I’d like to be, but I’m learning, and will never stop.
I’m so thoroughly addicted to this show, but it’s starting to piss me off. It’s always either a rerun or pre empted. WTF!! Last week was the first new episode in forever and now this week is a re run? Keep it up ABC and you’ll be losing a fan.
That’s all I can say to having won the CAPA for 2005 Best new erotic Author. Wow. Just being published is such a thrill and meeting so many wonderful people in the process. This is just icing on the cake. *sigh* Thanks to everyone for their continued support.
If its raining, put a damn coat and something over your baby’s head. It’s so not cool that you have a rain jacket on, but your baby is getting drenched. Yes, I saw that the other day and I wanted to give her a piece of my mind, but someone beat me to the punch. The woman actually got beligerent. And this is the same mother who probably wonders why her kid is sick all the time.
Yep, it’s that time a year again. American Idol is back with a vengence and Simon is nastier than ever. I love it! Some people are saying he’s extra mean this year, but to be honest, there wouldn’t be a show without him. Face it, one of the reasons we watch is to see what he’ll say next. I don’t care what anyone says, I love that man.
As for Paula Abdul, what the hell is wrong with her? Is she on drugs because half the things she says doesn’t make sense. I just keep waiting for Simon to belt her. I’ve heard it said that she takes pain killers for a bad back, but girlfriend, it’s starting to show. What happened to pop princess? Straight Up!
Ryan Seacreast, he’s an enigma. Does this guy have girlfriend, because he’s been spending an awful lot of time commenting on what other men wear. Now, I’m not insinuating a thing, (well maybe I am), but that’s just not something that most guys *coughs straight guys* do.
Okay, my thoughts on some of the contestants. I like Paris Bennett. She’s adorable. I like the girl Katherine McPhee, she’s the cute brunette with her mom as her voice coach. That girl can sang! Those are my two favorite girls. The others don’t really stand out on the radar to me except for being very pretty girls, except that one chic Brenna. That girl has a terrible attitude and she trys to come off as funny, but you just know she’s a beotch. Did you notice when she wasn’t eliminated that no one clapped for her? I get the feeling that she’s not liked, and if she acts that way in front of the camera, imagine what a nightmare she must be when its not on.
For the guys, I looooooove Looooove Loooove Ace Young. He is so hot. I asked my husband if I could leave him for Ace given the opportunity since I told him he could have a free pass with Halle Berry. He said no. His jealousy can be so cute sometimes. I like Taylor Hicks because he’s unique and I think he’s just what the competition needs. Its like he’s channeled Ray Charles, Joe Coker and Michael McDonald. I hope he does well because he’s not cookie cutter. I like Chris the bald headed rocker. He’s a sweetie and he’s got a great voice. I also like that little kid who looks like he’s 12. The name escapes me, but he’s such a cutie pie. I want to pinch his widdle cheeks. So those are my top three guys. Yes, I know that Elliot guy sounds really good to, but I can’t get past the fact that he reminds me of the Leprachaun in that scary movie. *sigh* I’d have so much fun if I were a judge on that show.
So I joined a gym a few months back for better health. I’m getting to a certain age where I need to take better care of myself considering all the various health problems in my family. Well, recently I decided to go all gung ho and get a personal trainer as well. When I met him, he was standing on a platform and I thought to myself, wow, he looks like a young Brad Pitt. Seriously. Anyway, we talked and he asked me what my goals were, yadda yadda, so anyway, after our chat, he asks me if I’m ready to work out and I’m like sure. Well, he steps down from behind the counter, and yikes, he’s like 5’5. Now I’m a tall woman, so I towered over this shrimp thinking, it’s Brad’s mini me! He did give me a good work out though. I’m sore as hell now. The little shit.
When I checked my calendar a few minutes ago, I was floored to see that it was the anniversary of my very first release, Raven’s Calling. As I reflect over the past year, I think about all that I’ve learned about the industry, how I’ve met some wonderful people, made some new friends and realized my dreams. To think I was just a kid with a dream, and now I’m actually a published author.
I have found this year, if not anything else, humbling. Whenever I get a letter from a reader who tells me how much they enjoyed my works its always like the first one. I’m excited like a little kid and I appreciate every single one of them. Writing erotic romance has been an eye opener as well. People from all walks of life read it, and its so amazing. I started a little yahoo group for people who enjoy my books and never would I have imagined to have so many in such a realitively short period of time. I feel truly blessed to have my dream realized and the group of people who enjoy it is just the icing on the cake.
To all unpublished authors with a dream: Don’t give up and never stop until you reach your goal. You may hear no, but don’t let it stop you and never stop learning because when you stop learning your writing suffers. I think I’m a much better writer than I was a year ago and in ten years, I’ll probably be much better than I am now. Also never stop seeking new opportunities. One of my dreams is to be on a bestseller list. I dreamed it, I claimed it, and I’m not going to sit around wishing for it to happen. I plan on doing my abosolute best to make it happen. Alway remain hungry.
Finally a big thanks to those who took a chance on a nobody, Margaret, Caroline, Treva, Olivia, Linda, Tina. And most importantly a huge thanks to my readers. You all mean so much to me.
*I know this post was sappier than usual, but sometimes a gal gets a little emotional, I’ll be my usual piss and vinegar self tomorrow. LOL*
To all you out there reading this blog, to celebrate the launch of my new group website with a bunch of fabulous writers, we’re have a scavenger hunt for one lucky entrant to win a fabulous prize. For more details go to www.writingdivas.com Some of your favorite authors are participating. Contest will be ran through the month of the 28th so get those entries in!!
Yes, I’ve been slack, but I plan on updating my blog more. It’s official. I’m lazy. LOL Well, sort of. I’ve been writing up a storm lately but I should be updating my stuff more often. I’m learning how to update my own website and it’s fun. Yeah me. I haven’t had any major screw ups yet so let’s keep our fingers crossed. I’m gearing up for my trip to Cali at the end of March so I’m really excited about that. I’ve never been to the west coast and never been on a plane for such a long period of time. The longer plane ride I’ve had was maybe two hours. Anyone in the LA area know of the hot spots to eat and hang out?