Dear Eve,

I am a very conservative woman in my early 20's. I am not in any way shape or form "Gothic" or "Punk-Rock". I look like every other normal girl. But I like body piercings. I have my tongue and my navel done and I am now considering getting the hood of my clitoris pierced. Contrary to popular belief it is a very fast healing and painless piercing. The benefit is that the jewelry will be in contact with my clitoris all the time and I just think its pretty. But friends of mine have said that it is a bad idea because it will make every man that I sleep with think that I'm a slut. I really am very far from that and I don't want to do anything to make men think that about me. But on the other hand it's my body and I want the piercing. What should I do? Sincerely, Conservative in L.A.

Dear Conservative,

Who the hell cares what other people think about what you want to do with your body? The only people who'd see it anyway are the ones you sleep with and if they think you're a slut, then what does that make them for sleeping with you? This is the year 2006. Not everyone with a body piercing is promicuous. Would you even want to be with someone who makes those type of assumptions? You have to do what's right for you and screw the others. Just make sure you go to a licenced or certified piercer, with a clean shop or you'll have another set of problems.

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Dear Eve,

My husband and I have been married for tweleve years now. I thought we had a great sex life until recently, but lately he's been talking about bringing another woman into our bed. I normally would just change the subject and he'd let the subject drop, but a the last time he brought it up, he wouldn't let it go until I told him that I'd think about it. Well a week later, he brought someone home and I was so mortified I didn't know what to do. I would have felt like a fool not going along with it, so I did. I let this female do things to me and my husband I hadn't seen in porn movies. Now I'm mortified for what I've done, but my husband doesn't want this to be the last time. What should I do? ~Feeling Used

Dear Used,

Please allow me to be frank in saying that you were crazy to go along with him. If you didn't feel comfortable with the situation in the first place why did you even tell him you'd think about it? You should have told him from the get go in no uncertain terms that you weren't into threesomes. For that you have only yourself to blame. Now that the damage is done, you have two choices, you can lay down the law or you can get some counseling. It sounds to me like this woman has been waiting in the wings for a while. Is it just a coincidence that he would just happen to find someone for your little threesome within a week of your telling him you'd think about it? He may be having an affair. If he's not you still need counseling because it doesn't seem like he really takes your feelings into consideration.

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Dear Eve,

I met a man that is very sweet, hardworking and handsome but I found out that he was married. There are no children involved. Should I pursue the obvious attraction between us? So far it has just been sparks and glances. I have heard so many horror stories about getting involved with married men. I do know that his wife treats him like crap. ~ Undecided

Dear Undecided,

Just because his wife treats him like crap doesn’t give you license to have an affair, and remember dear, how you get him is how you keep him. There are very few married men who actually leave their wives for the other woman, and if they do, nine time out of ten, once you get that ring on his finger, he’ll do the same thing to you. If this is truly the “sweet” man you believe he is, he’ll do the honorable thing and divorce his wife and then start a relationship with you. Now one question remains: Are you an honorable woman?